thou shalt not conform when thou could blaze thy own path..
daily log #3
wow, daily log #3. lucky num. they always says 3's the lucky charm for watever ya wanna do to make it work. i'll say, regardless how many times one's gonna try, i'll only register watever i like. haha..
anyway, been to briefing at djp off yesternite. partiming. gonna go off on kid's prog tis weekend. smtg to do with exposing the kids to the farm life. good for the kids, if only we can teach em how to climb trees and run around with chicken feet then it'd b more fun, but too hazardous for urban kids nowadays. farney huh? left alone, the kampung kids would do anything they like without safety net n all, but with adults around safety must b put into consideration. weird tat a kid never got much accident prone when they r alone comparable to when they r in a controlled environment huh? but tis is applicable only when the kids are not near some dam or man made hole, as u know, how curious kids are around tis sort of stuff; they'd challenge their capability against the odds of falling into such places. nasty behaviour, i know, we've all been there one way or another. *eyes rolling..
so gonna be some babysitter tis weekend. kc, seow n michelle's off to the prefect prog with a bunch of gal teens to smwhere near gombak. they'll b camping smwhere, while i'll be sleeping cozily inside a house. muahaha..>:) blissful turn of affair, dun cha think so?
been reading some stuff bout handling kids and hyper kids. saw frm a cartoon show called the weekender (sat, 12+ noon, tv8/tv3/nt7) tat hyper kids cant be fed sugary stuff. saw frm the cartoon stitch tat caffeine makes stitch goes wacko. i'll lay caffeinated and sugary stuff frm the hyper kids at the farm tis weekend, just in case. i'd recommend tis site to anybody who's raising kids How To Raise A Hero:
Label them "good" is a great way method. it sets the kids into a positive examplenary behavioural group. same with the tactic when u are holding onto a guy frm the edge of a cliff, instead of saying "dun look down!" which will inevitably making the dude into looking down at the raging ravine beneath him and makes him more scared and almost fall and bringing u with him, try saying positive stuff like "hang on!" which will make him hold on more to u, thus saving both of ur life n time. positive stuff with all the right words does make a diff.
"Bystanders oftentimes don't take action because they correctly believe they don't have the skills needed to help. Heroes rushed in because they had trained in martial arts, CPR, swimming, or other related activities." Training the kids by providing em with the right skillset helps a lot. makes sense to me.
Make them responsible. "I will leave you in charge, ok?" That simple statement greatly increased the likelihood that a child would go to the rescue.
I can never emphasis on this : Set an example, and explain it. Show leadership thru example. An adult may not know everything or acted right everytime, but the effort to do so is so worth an A+. Kids were much more likely to copy altruistic behavior if the adult also explained his or her actions; explaining the why to the how. makes sense.
The part bout "Don't swat." is smtg i think parents nowadays need to applicate more. Many parents prefer to let the kids observe n learn, but they forgot to explain. I always learn consequences after i get burnt, which is bad really cos i'm starting to get used to the burning sensation, which is bad for me cos i dun seem to learn until a person says "u hurt me" with tear threatening to fall down frm their eye lashes, worst still when it's a guy telling me so. *sigh..
Final lesson : Children raised with love are more likely to help their fellow human beings in time of need. Simple, yes. But not easy. With tis finale, i'd like to add a few poetry to it:
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn;
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight;
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy;
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty;
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient;
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence;
If children live with praise, they learn to appreaciate;
If children live with fairness, they learn justice;
If children live with security, they learn to have faith;
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves;
If children live with acceptance and friendship, they learn to find love in the world.
- Children Learn What They Live ; 1982 Dorothy Law Nolte
the poetry me mum gave me when i was in form 3 or primary 6. cant remember when. she had it frm her hospital. i think the lessons are nice. i think if kids are exposed to love in the early parts of their life, they'd learn to take care of ppl other than themselves.
I've been reading up the news n saw an article on a guy where he wrote n song tributed to his gf (who went off with smbody at some train station where the singer stood n watched). listen when u r free. U're beautiful
A friend told me why i watched porn during working hour. After I saw the clip (which i didnt manage to do in the first plc cos i didnt download the software to view it but still able to listen to the song), only then i realised it's setting a bad example for the kids nowadays to follow since they can be so shakespearean when it comes to love. kids nowadays with their ideals..*rolling eyes.
anyway, the song is for one's perspective. just remember it's merely a clip, the artist lived thru it so he can spend the rest of the cash he got frm the cd selling n marketing.
tis is a nice link frm me coll : Viktor Frankl
it reminds me of the schindler's list. great man preservering through obstacles and odds. great respect for the guy.
there's a phrase tat rings true : "The truth--that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love." it's true regardless watever anybody says cos love n hope preseveres through the harshest condition and still preserve it's purest form.
"Frankl was able to exercise the most important freedom of all - the freedom to determine one's own attitude and spiritual well-being." attitude counts regardless where one is i guess.
-- extract frm the article
Both a concentration camp prisoner and world-respected author and psychotherapist in his lifetime, Viktor Frankl writes the following advice about happiness:
"Again and again I therefore admonish my students in Europe and America: Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run - in the long-run, I say! - success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it."
Of course, the important part is the "...in the long-run..."
-- end of extract
haha..of course, must not forget the "..in the long run.." ;)
new word for the day : logotherapy
- a revolutionary approach to psychotherapy;
- At the core of Frankl's theory is the belief that humanity's primary motivational force is the search for meaning, and the work of the logotherapist centers on helping the patient find personal meaning in life, however dismal the circumstances may be. (Frankl's teachings have been described as the Third Vienna School of Psychotherapy, after that of Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler.)
- According to logotherapy, meaning can be discovered by three ways: "(1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering," he wrote.
interesting, aint it?
lesson of the day : never ever brings back a box cricket for purpose of safe keeping. u'll not sleep much wink for fear it'll get carnivorised by ants or it'll bug u till u get more loose screws.
rock-ing on..on my rocking chair.
anyway, been to briefing at djp off yesternite. partiming. gonna go off on kid's prog tis weekend. smtg to do with exposing the kids to the farm life. good for the kids, if only we can teach em how to climb trees and run around with chicken feet then it'd b more fun, but too hazardous for urban kids nowadays. farney huh? left alone, the kampung kids would do anything they like without safety net n all, but with adults around safety must b put into consideration. weird tat a kid never got much accident prone when they r alone comparable to when they r in a controlled environment huh? but tis is applicable only when the kids are not near some dam or man made hole, as u know, how curious kids are around tis sort of stuff; they'd challenge their capability against the odds of falling into such places. nasty behaviour, i know, we've all been there one way or another. *eyes rolling..
so gonna be some babysitter tis weekend. kc, seow n michelle's off to the prefect prog with a bunch of gal teens to smwhere near gombak. they'll b camping smwhere, while i'll be sleeping cozily inside a house. muahaha..>:) blissful turn of affair, dun cha think so?
been reading some stuff bout handling kids and hyper kids. saw frm a cartoon show called the weekender (sat, 12+ noon, tv8/tv3/nt7) tat hyper kids cant be fed sugary stuff. saw frm the cartoon stitch tat caffeine makes stitch goes wacko. i'll lay caffeinated and sugary stuff frm the hyper kids at the farm tis weekend, just in case. i'd recommend tis site to anybody who's raising kids How To Raise A Hero:
Label them "good" is a great way method. it sets the kids into a positive examplenary behavioural group. same with the tactic when u are holding onto a guy frm the edge of a cliff, instead of saying "dun look down!" which will inevitably making the dude into looking down at the raging ravine beneath him and makes him more scared and almost fall and bringing u with him, try saying positive stuff like "hang on!" which will make him hold on more to u, thus saving both of ur life n time. positive stuff with all the right words does make a diff.
"Bystanders oftentimes don't take action because they correctly believe they don't have the skills needed to help. Heroes rushed in because they had trained in martial arts, CPR, swimming, or other related activities." Training the kids by providing em with the right skillset helps a lot. makes sense to me.
Make them responsible. "I will leave you in charge, ok?" That simple statement greatly increased the likelihood that a child would go to the rescue.
I can never emphasis on this : Set an example, and explain it. Show leadership thru example. An adult may not know everything or acted right everytime, but the effort to do so is so worth an A+. Kids were much more likely to copy altruistic behavior if the adult also explained his or her actions; explaining the why to the how. makes sense.
The part bout "Don't swat." is smtg i think parents nowadays need to applicate more. Many parents prefer to let the kids observe n learn, but they forgot to explain. I always learn consequences after i get burnt, which is bad really cos i'm starting to get used to the burning sensation, which is bad for me cos i dun seem to learn until a person says "u hurt me" with tear threatening to fall down frm their eye lashes, worst still when it's a guy telling me so. *sigh..
Final lesson : Children raised with love are more likely to help their fellow human beings in time of need. Simple, yes. But not easy. With tis finale, i'd like to add a few poetry to it:
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn;
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight;
If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy;
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty;
If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient;
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence;
If children live with praise, they learn to appreaciate;
If children live with fairness, they learn justice;
If children live with security, they learn to have faith;
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves;
If children live with acceptance and friendship, they learn to find love in the world.
- Children Learn What They Live ; 1982 Dorothy Law Nolte
the poetry me mum gave me when i was in form 3 or primary 6. cant remember when. she had it frm her hospital. i think the lessons are nice. i think if kids are exposed to love in the early parts of their life, they'd learn to take care of ppl other than themselves.
I've been reading up the news n saw an article on a guy where he wrote n song tributed to his gf (who went off with smbody at some train station where the singer stood n watched). listen when u r free. U're beautiful
A friend told me why i watched porn during working hour. After I saw the clip (which i didnt manage to do in the first plc cos i didnt download the software to view it but still able to listen to the song), only then i realised it's setting a bad example for the kids nowadays to follow since they can be so shakespearean when it comes to love. kids nowadays with their ideals..*rolling eyes.
anyway, the song is for one's perspective. just remember it's merely a clip, the artist lived thru it so he can spend the rest of the cash he got frm the cd selling n marketing.
tis is a nice link frm me coll : Viktor Frankl
it reminds me of the schindler's list. great man preservering through obstacles and odds. great respect for the guy.
there's a phrase tat rings true : "The truth--that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love." it's true regardless watever anybody says cos love n hope preseveres through the harshest condition and still preserve it's purest form.
"Frankl was able to exercise the most important freedom of all - the freedom to determine one's own attitude and spiritual well-being." attitude counts regardless where one is i guess.
-- extract frm the article
Both a concentration camp prisoner and world-respected author and psychotherapist in his lifetime, Viktor Frankl writes the following advice about happiness:
"Again and again I therefore admonish my students in Europe and America: Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run - in the long-run, I say! - success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it."
Of course, the important part is the "...in the long-run..."
-- end of extract
haha..of course, must not forget the "..in the long run.." ;)
new word for the day : logotherapy
- a revolutionary approach to psychotherapy;
- At the core of Frankl's theory is the belief that humanity's primary motivational force is the search for meaning, and the work of the logotherapist centers on helping the patient find personal meaning in life, however dismal the circumstances may be. (Frankl's teachings have been described as the Third Vienna School of Psychotherapy, after that of Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler.)
- According to logotherapy, meaning can be discovered by three ways: "(1) by creating a work or doing a deed; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering," he wrote.
interesting, aint it?
lesson of the day : never ever brings back a box cricket for purpose of safe keeping. u'll not sleep much wink for fear it'll get carnivorised by ants or it'll bug u till u get more loose screws.
rock-ing on..on my rocking chair.
Labels: Childhood, Daily, Lesson
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