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Paying For It
Yes, the topic has crossed my mind cos a friend mentioned it to me.
It's an age old question for the dating parties as to defining the line between generousity and being a s*cker.
For me personally, I prefer dutch style. That's y all my dates ended up my friends whom in the long distance of friendship, slowly expects or even ask me jokingly to pay for both of our meals. Jokingly I decline, unjokingly, I never call em after tat.
For a gal to pay for a meal or a gift applicable only for during special occassion or when she feels generous or having a good enough excuse to spend a little bit more than she can afford. But all must come from her decision, not from some dude who thinks it's farney to ask a gal to pay. It's so wrong.
Long ago, somebody told me tat, in the olden time, men feel privileged to pay for a meal cos it means a chance for another meal or date.
Nowadays, a guy has been thru too many dating processes (read: feel cheated) and feel tired to keep on forking out cash. Sometimes, I feel sorry for em s*ckers, but on another hand, mayb they deserve it.
I mean, why pay to show their generousity when they cant afford it? Tried cooking at home? It's cheaper and ensures petting session after that (pls pls pls make sure housemate is bribed to take a hike somewhere), if the guy plays his card right.
So some gals actually are pretty understanding and pay for some of the meale; she picked up tis tab so he can pick up the next. But if he forgets once, twice..it's endless unanswerable ringtones for the guy in the future or the common excuse; bz.
I kinda pity the guys for paying everytime, but then I looked back on the guys I've dated..that's the only initiative they've taken in a long loooong time. (I was hoping for a romp in the car but so far, no luck. Eastern men I've dated are so dimwitted..)
Summary : Guys should pay, until after in a steady relationship, both can pay alternately though guys still pay during special occassion. That way, nobody feel used, I hope.
PS : All I want is a guy (not boy) of my own whom I can use till he cried "No more.." *sigh..
posted by M.E. # 10:05 AM
It's an age old question for the dating parties as to defining the line between generousity and being a s*cker.
For me personally, I prefer dutch style. That's y all my dates ended up my friends whom in the long distance of friendship, slowly expects or even ask me jokingly to pay for both of our meals. Jokingly I decline, unjokingly, I never call em after tat.
For a gal to pay for a meal or a gift applicable only for during special occassion or when she feels generous or having a good enough excuse to spend a little bit more than she can afford. But all must come from her decision, not from some dude who thinks it's farney to ask a gal to pay. It's so wrong.
Long ago, somebody told me tat, in the olden time, men feel privileged to pay for a meal cos it means a chance for another meal or date.
Nowadays, a guy has been thru too many dating processes (read: feel cheated) and feel tired to keep on forking out cash. Sometimes, I feel sorry for em s*ckers, but on another hand, mayb they deserve it.
I mean, why pay to show their generousity when they cant afford it? Tried cooking at home? It's cheaper and ensures petting session after that (pls pls pls make sure housemate is bribed to take a hike somewhere), if the guy plays his card right.
So some gals actually are pretty understanding and pay for some of the meale; she picked up tis tab so he can pick up the next. But if he forgets once, twice..it's endless unanswerable ringtones for the guy in the future or the common excuse; bz.
I kinda pity the guys for paying everytime, but then I looked back on the guys I've dated..that's the only initiative they've taken in a long loooong time. (I was hoping for a romp in the car but so far, no luck. Eastern men I've dated are so dimwitted..)
Summary : Guys should pay, until after in a steady relationship, both can pay alternately though guys still pay during special occassion. That way, nobody feel used, I hope.
PS : All I want is a guy (not boy) of my own whom I can use till he cried "No more.." *sigh..
posted by M.E. # 10:05 AM
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